Could “You” be your own worst nightmare? Could “You” be the reason your still single? Have you stopped and really analyzed yourself before assuming the reason was everyone else? I know this may sound harsh but I also know this may be true. It’s a common mistake for people to overlook their own faults and short comings. Take a good look at yourself. You may come to learn that while you are your own worst critique in some areas you are blinded by your faults in others. Keep reading to see if you fall into any of these areas I’ve listed below, you may be surprised at the things you’ve overlooked.

Are your loving ways coming across the wrong way?

You may be a loving and nurturing person which is great; as long as you know when to draw the line. While some people may enjoy your constant praise and attention at first, it wont be long before they’re looking for some breathing room. men and women the same need space, especially in the beginning of a relationship. You’ll have to learn to keep yourself in check so that your loving ways don’t end up pushing them away. By being too clingy, needy or dependent you ca be sending them singles of insecurity which is a major turn off.

Are you so outspoken that you come across as argumentative?

Intelligence is a wonderful trait and so is having an opinion. However, when you go from being opinionated to argumentative this is the issue. There’s nothing wrong with expressing your thoughts and feelings, but allow others to do the same. Remember you don’t have to agree on everything. Sometimes it’s best to “agree to disagree” and move on to the next conversation.

Are you still dealing with issues from the past?

Sure you may be over your ex and don’t want them back. But have you forgive them and stopped hating them yet? If you’re still holding on to the resentment, hate and pain for your ex you are unable to truly move forward with an open heart or mind. You may physically be out of a relationship but you are still mentally connected to them. You have to get over the past before you can move on with your present to ensure a happier future.

Do you have your standards set too high?

Make a list of what it is you’re looking for. Then make a list of the things you aren’t willing to over look. What are the “must have’s,” “nice to have’s,” and “absolute no-no’s”. Are you really bring reasonable? Are you turning people away over silliness or stupidity?

Do you fall for the wrong type of people?

Do you constantly find yourself attracted to the unavailable? Could your subconscious mind be doing this as a reason for you to keep running away? What is it about these people that keeps drawing you to them? Work out your personal issues before you enter the dating world.

Do you have a tendency of opening up and get attached too fast?

While communication is important it’s equally important that you don’t open up too soon. Take your time getting to know people and letting them get to know you. Let them see all your pros before you start unleashing all your baggage on them. If you say too much too soon you can be scarring people away.

It seems that the majority of men are intimidated when it comes to dating women with high paying jobs. For some reason they feel less of a man and that their job may not be good enough to date a woman who is a lawyer or doctor. Most successful women have felt that they had to lie at first about their position or downgrade what their job title really is to make a man that they are interest in feel comfortable with his own pride. Now not all men will feel intimidated and some will be proud to have a strong, independent woman by their side. There are ways to represent your career and not scare off any man who might feel less accomplished than you.

5 Dating Tips For Successful Women:

Tip #1: Talk About Your Dates Career

Finding someone who is just as passionate about their career as you are will make talking about their career go smoothly. They will be more willing to engage in the conversation and talk about their every day experiences at the work place.

Tip #2: Ask For Advice & Opinion

Men want to feel needed by a woman they are dating. Talk about how you would like to hear his advice or opinion about a certain situation that is going on at work. Make sure you seem genuine and really take his advice into consideration.

Tip #3: Talk About Other Topics Than Work

Once the initial conversation about work has passed; branch out and talk about other interesting topics. Try to find things that you both have in common such as riding bike, hiking, movies, music, or favorite sport. The point for this is to find mutual interests that you both can share from time to time.

Tip #4: Realize To Let Go

If you are currently dating someone who is constantly talking about how you have more education than he does or you make more money than he does; get out of that relationship quickly. The person you are dating is clearly showing you that it bothers him that you are more successful than he is. He is letting his pride get in the way of something that might turn into a real good thing. As a successful woman you must learn how to realize when something is not working out.

Tip #5: Make Sure He Is Dating You Not Your Success

Men always complain about being careful of women who are gold diggers, well there are lots of men who are gold diggers as well. Make sure the person you are investing your time in is dating you not your money. If he shows any shady behavior dump him and move on to the next man.

Successful women deserve to date a man that is going to respect their job and respect them as a person. No need to settle for anything less than that. If you find a confident man that is okay with your career and the potential distance apart due to you working hard then he is a keeper.

Women are difficult creatures to understand, I know. They say one thing and show another, they leave mens heads spinning and in a daze. However, there are some pretty common things that most women look for in a man. These are the things they feel are most important and many men don’t realize. So many men end up messing up their relationships or chance at a relationship over these small details and  lack of confidence. Below is a list of 5 things women said they look for in a man and most men lacked or messed up.

Top 5 Mistakes Men Make With Women

1. Not Being Confident With Yourself – Confidence is the number one thing women look for.
2. Overly Seeking A Woman’s Approval – Be happy and confident with yourself. Don’t seek the approval of others.
3. Opening Up Too Soon – This takes away from your mystery and the enjoyment of getting to know you.
4. Not Understanding What A Woman Is Really Looking For – Get to know her and see what she is looking for. Not all women want the same thing or get turned on by the same things.
5. Allowing The Woman To Wear The Pants In The Relationship – No matter how controlling a woman is she wants a man who can take control and give her a break.

Example a man sees a women is a control freak. So to try and please her he’ll step back and give her the control he thinks she wants. NO! This is not what she wants. A women wants to feel like a woman, she wants a man to be able to put her in her place and take control from time to time. She wants to be able to rest knowing that he is able to handle things.

What Most Women Find Appealing In A Man

• Men who are confident with who they are.
• Men that don’t care about what people think about them.
• Men that don’t seek the approval of others.
• Men that are mysterious.
• Men that are challenging.

It is great to see when exs’ have learned to get along and even some become great friends. Once in awhile exs talk about their current relationships to each other and simple catching up topics. It is even great to see when they have evolved, moved on and being respectful happy for each other. Now the big day comes when your ex has invited you to his wedding. It might not seem awkward to you since you both are good friends now, but there are some things that you should know before you go. Here is a list of The Do’s & Don’ts At An Ex’s Wedding:

For this list of Don’ts; if you care about your ex and have respect for his wife to be you would not think about doing any of these things on this list. Here are some Don’ts:

• Don’t try to dress in white or try to outshine the bride on this day. The dress should not be too short, too low cut, or too tight.
• Don’t be overly affection with him. No need to sit there and hug him for more than 15 seconds making him and his new wife uncomfortable.
• Don’t bring a date that you don’t know just so that you won’t seem single at your ex’s wedding.
• Don’t bring up your relationship with the groom if not need be. Try to refrain from mentioning things that you two had once shared. If a song is playing that reminds you of the time you and your ex had vacationed at the Bahamas and had a steamy night; keep that story to yourself!
• Don’t write a long, love note in your greeting card or the guest sign in book to your ex. This is simply inappropriate to him and his new wife. Make sure to include bride in the note and make it short and simple.
• Don’t hang around your ex’s parents the whole night. This can easily make the bride feel uncomfortable watching you sweet talking his parents.

This list of Do’s shows your maturity level and respect you have for your ex and his wife to be. Here are some Do’s:

• Do bring a date (if you are given permission too) and make sure this guy is a good guy and that you have known for some time.
• Do greet the groom and bride when given the opportunity.
• Do congratulate the bride and tell her that she looks wonderful. But please don’t overdo it and sound phony. Congratulating the bride and saying nice things to her will make her feel more comfortable that you are there.
• Do communicate with the groom’s family and friends. Be nice to everyone you come in contact with.
• Do be honest have you know the groom if asked by one of the bride’s party. All you have to say is “We met back in school” or “I’ve known him since we worked together back at the bookstore.” There is no need to make it a point or say “We use to hook up back then.” No one needs to hear that.
• Do bring a wedding gift if you can or a gift card will be nice as well.

There’s just so many tips and words of advice to give when it comes to dating. So many people will give you bad advice, so it’s important that you really think things through. The most important thing is to be yourself and respect yourself at all times. You should know what you’re about and what you deserve. Never settle for less than you deserve! Settling will never bring you happiness and neither will playing games. It’s important to treat people the way you wish to be treated in return. Remember there’s very much a thing called “Karma”. If you treat a man badly be prepared to get treated badly in return. Remember there’s a difference between a little mystery and playing stupid games. If you’re tried of the games and dead end relationships pay attention to the following dating tips to help you have success when with the lucky one!

Top 10 Dating Tips For Women
Dating Tip #1 – Don’t Play Games
Dating Tip #2 – Don’t Settle For Last Minute Plans
Dating Tip #3 – Don’t Talk About Your Ex-Lovers
Dating Tip #4 – Don’t Spill Your Whole Life Story
Dating Tip #5 – Don’t Try To Impress Him By Being Someone Your Not
Dating Tip #6 – Don’t Comment On Other Men or Women or Get Caught With The Wondering Eye
Dating Tip #7 – Don’t Continue Dating A Guy That You Know Isn’t The One For You
Dating Tip #8 – Don’t Be Lazy Always Dress To Impress Even When Wearing Jeans & Sneakers
Dating Tip #9 – Don’t Have Sex With Him On The First Date, Don’t Have Sex With Him Till You Know You’re Ready & He’s Worth It
Dating Tip #10-Make Sure You Both Get Tested Before You Become Intimate!

It has been said that social networking sites such as Facebook and MySpace have become big contenders in the online adult dating world. It makes sense because they are free and you can easily search through your friends list of their friends. It always seems that everyone is connected somehow and that makes it that much easier to find potential dates. Plus, many people are on there for a popularity contest so you can send a request just about to anyone and you will be easily accepted. Social Networks such as Facebook has allowed many of your personal information become so public. Be careful who you choose to gained access to your profile. Here is a list of some don’ts and dos of dating on social networks.

Social Networking Mistakes Daters Often Make:

1. Don’t Accept/Send Friend Requests Too Soon: Let’s say that you went on a date with someone, but you are unsure if you want to continue seeing this person. All the sudden once you get home you notice that you have already received a friend request from your date. This is a bit creepy and kind of stalkerish; you don’t have to accept the friend request right away. Think about if you really want to allow this person, whom you are still on the fence about, seeing all of your personal information. If you do like the person and you accept the request, remember that they may or may not go through all of your posts and pictures (both you put up and others tagged you in). Maybe there is something there that you don’t want them to see.

2. Do Think About What You Post: This pertains to some of the information on the first mistake. You need to think clearly of what you decide to upload, comment, and post onto your wall. There is an image you want people to view you as, especially your date or the person you are crushing on. Don’t let them see a side of you that you might soon regret.

3. Don’t Be A Social Network Stalker: Everyone has a curious DNA and when we are allowed to semi snoop through a potential lover’s profile we take advantage of that. But don’t become a stalker and then mention something you saw on their profile (that took some digging to find) during a conversation. Also don’t take to heart something that you might see that will may you uncomfortable; such as a picture that unfortunately is still up of his/hers ex. Maybe they completely forgot it was still posted.

4. Using the Relationship Status Often: If you and an ex broke up, then by all means change your relationship statues. But, and this is a big but, if you are one of those couples who every other week break up and then get back together then for the sake of continued embarrassment that you have laid upon yourself just leave your status alone. Also changing your status on your profile will welcome lots of people asking “What happened,” so prepare yourself for those pesky questions.

5. Do Delete The Person If Things End Badly: If your relationship ended badly or you had a really bad date; it might be best that you delete that person quickly. This reason being is that they might say something rude on your wall or photos, and allowing an ex to see your everyday activities isn’t a good idea. He might show up wherever you are at and start drama.

Making yourself approachable is the first key to meeting new people and hopefully finding that special someone. It doesn’t matter whether you are looking for love or a fling, you still need to make yourself approachable. By learning these simple keys to master the art of being approachable, it will not only assist you in your love life but in life in general. You’ll need to use these tips in both your professional and personal life whether your at a business function or social gathering. Make sure to take mental notes and apply allow these tips to making yourself more approachable on a daily basis. The more you practice these tips the easier and more natural it will all become.

How To Make Yourself Approachable:

Wear warm and bright colored clothing so you look warm and inviting rather then dull and washed out. Also,  avoid wearing all back so you don’t end up looking too serious.

Smell tempting and inviting. Use fruity or floral scented hair products and body lotions and don’t forget to wear a perfume that is soft and pleasant and won’t be too overbearing. Remember you want them to enjoy standing next to you and getting close to you, so be careful not to over do it.

Now that you look and smell good comes the even more important factors to making yourself approachable.

BODY LANGUAGE ! I can not stress to you enough, the importance of sending off open and inviting body language. No matter how beautiful you may be, if you are sending off the wrong signals, no one will feel comfortable approaching you.

Avoid crossing your arms instead allow them to lay gracefully by your sides or lay them softly on your lay. By crossing your arms you look angry and uninterested. This will case a person away or make them uncomfortable speaking with you. It’s like building a wall up around yourself.

Position your body in the direction of the one(s) you are trying to attract this will make you more noticeable and easier to approach. Make sure to position yourself in a location that makes you easy to access. Don’t wonder to far away from the one(s) you have your eyes on.

Keep a warm and inviting smile on your face and engage in eye contact. Your eyes are not only your way to see the world but they are also the way that people look into who you are. Avoid burying your head in a book or in your phone. Rather then just looking at the ceiling and or floor take a good look around at the people who surround you. Don’t forget to engage in eye contact with those you want to draw in and give them a friendly smile to make it more encouraging for them to want and approach you.