As all you may have experienced in some point of your adult life, or young adult life it is heart break. Having your heart broken by someone you loved and trusted they shared the same feeling could be utterly devastating. Unfortunately, life is hard and filled with galore of heartbreak if nothing more. If you truly loved your ex-boyfriend or girlfriend you might be feeling crippled with pain and it’s hard to breathe, think or do anything for that matter, but that too, shall pass. It does. It just really does, because if you don’t die from it which most likely you won’t, life will go on and you will go on just as well.
Here are some 4 Ways of Getting Over Your Ex:
- - You Need to Get Out! ( It may sound cliche, but it’s not)
I sure hope you have some good friends that can drag you out of your slump, because this will be helpful. If you don’t, you need to pick yourself up and get out. Get out and get drunk and talk to people. It doesn’t matter if you make a fool out of yourself, if your dressed ugly, if you’re belligerent and emotional. Diving into a depression for a couple of days could be healthy, sometimes you just need to soak up all the pain, but if it goes beyond a week, you need to get out one way or another.
- - Talk to People.
Whether it’s a good friend, parent, or even old flame. You need to vomit your pain out verbally. Getting feedback and hearing other people’s heart break stories will make you feel a bit more rational. Perhaps, at the moment you feel you’re the only one who’s ever gone through so much heartache. Well, you’re not and many more after you will follow. It’s like a passage of life. It sucks but at the end, hopefully you’ll come out a wiser person.
- - Cry.
Crying is as good as talking. Just make sure you go on your crying fest after you’ve managed to get out of bed and out of the house. When you come back, you cry your ass off. This is just as good as talking. I personally, see it as another form of vomiting. You need to get it out to feel better. Get it out- “Cry me a river” but be sure you’re not isolating yourself from the world by drowning yourself in your river. You need to stay connected. Broken hearts can lead to clinical depression which is very serious.
- - Have Sex/Fling.
You may not realize this, but sometimes when you’re heart broken, simultaneously you’re hormones are raging. You need to be touched, kissed and caressed and you need sex! This doesn’t mean it’s going to cure your shattered heart, but it will help. Don’t go to bed with just anyone, you have to at least like them in a friendly level, if not all will go to vain. As I said before, get out there, men love vulnerable women. If you sleep with someone at this stage of the game, you’re not going to get your heart broken again. It’s a fling…You might even end up breaking someone’s heart, unintentionally.
If you’re trying to get over your ex and having a difficult and painful time, the things stated above are surely to help- not cure but help. You need some kind of outage of your pain and it’s only fair that you give yourself this much. Most likely you’ve been through a lot and still going through it. People can advise you and extend a hand, a hug and more but if you don’t put in your part, it’s not going to help. You owe it to yourself, don’t drown in sorrow and shut the world out. Instead welcome new people in and open up your heart. “Something’s got to give…”