Lets be real, everyone wants to find love and live happily ever after. It’s completely understandable, but why is it so hard? As much as you want it, you have to make sure you don’t end up settling for the first nice guy that comes your way. By settling you are only opening the door for heartache and disappointments, rather then opening the door for true love and happiness.

Don’t rush things, take your time and date around. Allow yourself the opportunity to really get to know several different men. This wil help you see what you really enjoy and want in a relationship. While you’re busy in the dating scene, make sure you keep your eyes open and looking for the red flags I’ve listed below. By spotting out the common dating red flags you give yourself a better chance at finding love and avoiding unnecessary heart ache.

5 Things That Women Do Unknowingly That Drive Men Crazy

Red Flag #1 Still Lives At Home – It’s one thing if he’s taking care of his parents or if he’s only their temporarily but if that’s his permanent residence run for the hills. Most men who are comfortable living at home are in no hurry to grow up, be independent or financially responsible.

Red Flag #2 He Doesn’t Invite You Over - What’s he hiding? Maybe it’s another woman or maybe he’s a complete slob whatever the case is it’s a clear red flag telling you to run. If you notice that he never invites you to his place, doesn’t seem to want to be seen in public, gives you very vague answers and very little contact information know that somethings up!

Red Flag #3 Moving Too Fast – While you may feel like you’ve found your perfect match a man who rushes things is usually due to him being unable to be alone. This guy may be desperate and become a clingy nutshell quicker then you can blink.

Red Flag #4 Momma’s Boy – It’s always great to meet a man who loves and appreciates his mom but there’s a line that shouldn’t be crossed. A man who has to spend “excessive” amounts of time with or talking to his mom is likely to let her come in-between your relationship. Being stuck up your mommas butt or vise versa isn’t cute and will more then likely lead to some major relationship issues later on.

Red Flag #5 Jealosy – Some may think signs of jealousy are cute and a sign they care but I don’t agree. Jealousy is a sign of insecurity, low self esteem and craziness. No one should try and control you, what you do, where you go or who you hang out with. They shouldn’t invade your privacy or stalk you either. That’s not love that’s just CRAZY!

When it comes to relationships, conflict and disagreements are inevitable. In fact they are considered to be normal and can even be healthy if they are handled correctly. The first thing you have to realize is that COMMUNICATION is everything, it’s key and an absolute must! There are bound to be times of frustration, sadness, tension, and even outright anger between you and your partner. However, it’s important for you to stop and figure out what the root to the problem is. Are there unrealistic or unreasonable demands being made, unexplored expectations, or unresolved issues/behaviors in one partner or in the relationship?

It’s important that you know and realize that the only way to resolve these issues, is to talk about them in an open and honest manner. You need to put your guard down and really hear out  your partner and take into consideration what they are saying and how they are feeling. Remember that you are two different individuals you will not always agree on every topic. There will be times that you will have to agree to disagree and come to a compromise out of respect for one another and move forward. You will also need to learn to pick your battles wisely, there are times to put your foot down and times to just let things go.

10 Simple Yet Important Tips To Having A Successful Relationship

If you are unable to communicate with one another your relationship is headed for disaster if it’s not already a disaster. The fact is, communication is crucial in a relationship. Communication is especially necessary when having to deal with issues regarding your sex life, marriage, your family and even your career. In order to be happy and content in your relationship you will need to comunicate to get your thoughts, feelings and wishes across. Below I’ve listed some tips fr you to keep in mind to help you deal, handle and get past your conflicts.

• Get an understanding of each others upbringing! (How were issues dealt with?)
• Timing is everything! (Don’t try and talk during the heat of the moment.)
• Except each other for they are and let it be known it is OK to disagree!
• Learn to agree to disagree and move on!
• Determine what are wants and what are needs! (How important is this issue?)
• Get your thoughts across CLEARLY! (Get straight to the point don’t beat around the bush)
• Deal with one issue or topic at a time!
• Put on your listening cap! (Really pay attention to what your partner is sharing with you.)
• Learn to bit your tongue! (Don’t blurt out mean and hurtful things, learn to restrain yourself you can’t take them back once they’ve been said.)
• Develop a “win-win” mindset! (Everything you say an or do should be for the benefit of your relationship.)

Ever wonder what can you do to impress or gain the attention of a man? Well, there are tons of things that you are probably already doing that have gained interest from a man. Men all had different preferences when it comes to what they find attractive in a woman; such as eye color, hair color, teeth, lips, body shape, etc. There are the top 5 Things That Women Do Unknowingly That Drive Men Crazy that every man can agree on:

1. A Woman Who Smells Good: A woman who keeps up with her good personal hygiene already gained a man’s interest without really knowing it. There is really no man out there that wants to be with a woman who smells like stinky feet or some other foul smelling odor. No man wants to go to bed or be around a woman who smells bad.

2. A Sense of Humor: Men enjoy being with woman who know how to have a good time and are not so uptight. Having a sense of humor is on everyone’s list of traits they look for in mate. Laughter really shows a man that you know how to enjoy life and are pretty much drama free.

3. Being Honest: No one in their right mind wants to date someone who is a liar and cannot be truthful about important topics. Even the small issues a person should never lie about. If you tell a small lie in the beginning of the relationship you might have to continue with that same lie throughout your entire relationship. That’s absolutely not a good thing to do or have.

4. A Smile: Men love to see when a woman flashes her pearly whites at him. There is something extremely sexy and attractive how a woman smiles and that is what a man will notice about you. Make sure to always be friendly and smile to everyone while you are out, because you never know what your smile can bring your way.

5. Great Eye Contact: Who does enjoy having someone look into their eyes while they are having a conversation? The shape of the eye and how she looks at him is what really gets the guys all weak in the knees.

Ladies, make sure that you are always looking your best when you go out because you never know what gesture you might do that will bring a handsome man your way. If you are already in a relationship make sure to read about the Top 5 Mistakes That Couples Make.

Whether you are already in a relationship or thinking of getting into one you’ll need to memorize these next 10 tips. By following these very simple yet important relationship tips you’ll be well on your way to having or maintaining a healthy, happy and successful relationship. None of these things will take up all your time or cost you anything; yet not doing them can cost you both your happiness and your relationship. While many of them seem like common sense they easily become forgotten and over looked once the comfort levels set in and daily life takes over.

Remember Your Manners – Always remember to say ”please,” “thank you” and “you’re welcome.” It means a lot more then we think and it helps to show your partner that you appreciate him and aren’t trying to take him for granted.

Variety, variety, variety – Switch things up and try new things. Don’t allow your life or your love life get stuck in routine. It’s been proven in studies that dullness equals dissatisfaction in a relationship. Try new things like going to a new restaurant or taking a trip.

Be Playful – There’s a old saying that says it best “The couple that plays together, stays together.” Look for something that you both enjoy doing together. It can anything dancing, playing a sport, hiking you name it just do it. Use it as time for you to be able to relax and just have fun with one another.

Fight fair - Yes you heard me, fight fair. That means no name calling, finger pointing, interrupting or temper tantrums. If you see things are getting too heated take a break and go for a breather to regroup and collect your thoughts.  It’s never a good idea to have a serious conversation when someone is angry.

Lear To Compromise – Rather then making demands make suggestions. Better yet rather then making demands learn to make compromises. In other words can you do ____ for me and I’ll do ____ for you. Or I’ll do this for you if you can do that for me type of deal. This way both parties walk away winners getting something they both want. Just don’t over do it remember sometimes you simply have to do things from the heart.

You’re partners not individuals – Two heads are better than one. Being in a relationship means you’ve now become one, you’ve had to merge your life with another’s. His problems are her problems just as her problems are his. Rather then seeking out ways for them to fix issues decide to work on and address the issues together.

Everyone needs a little me time – It’s actually believed and proven that a little distance makes the heart grow fonder. It’s important that you keep and maintain your own friendships. Don’t loose your identity and life go out occasionally with friends and enjoy the breather and time away. This will give you a chance to miss one another and help you to appreciate your time together.

Laughter is the best medicine – DOn’t take life or situations that arise too seriously. Learn to laugh things off and even to laugh at yourself. What ever happens remember that it’s not the end of the world. Don’t allow the little things to keep you from seeing the bigger picture.

Don’t forget about the little yet important things - Develop a routine or ritual to help keep the spark alive. It can be as simple as saying I love or kissing each other every time you part ways or renewing wedding vows,  planning monthly date nights or yearly vacations. The point is just pick some things and stick to them no matter how tempted you may be to skip it.

Quitters never win, when things get tough seek help - It’s been proven in many studies that the couples who seek out counseling have much more success then those who don’t. None of us are perfect and no matter how many relationship books we read we still have imperfections that need to be addressed. Seek the guidance or help of someone who specializes in your relationships whether its from a religious figure, a counselor or mental health professional.

Can’t Live With Them, Can’t Live Without Them???

Are you planning a divorce and don’t know when the best time to follow through with your plan? Well, every person’s situation is different and some people need to divorce as soon as possible while others can wait for the correct timing. Most people worry about how they are going to survive financially during and after the divorce is final. This could be extremely scary due to how the economy is still recovering financially itself. Here is a list of The Best Times Financially To Get A Divorce:

1. Good to Excellent Credit Score. You will need to have a good credit especially after a divorce so that you can either apply for a loan to help you get started with your new life, purchase a vehicle, or rent an apartment or house.

2. Minimal Debt. Make sure to pay off your debt. If you have joint debts try to pay those off too before the split. Usually when a couple divorces with joint debts one person doesn’t feel that they are responsible nor will they pay the debt. Don’t be stuck with a high debt because of your ex.

3. Seller’s market in Real Estate. Try to make the most money possible for the home that you will be selling (If you both agree that none will stay with the house). Selling the home when it is a seller’s market will ensure that the both of you are less likely to pay any difference in the home loan.

4. Before receiving an inheritance. If you know that you will be receiving a large lump sum of money from a relative or some type of trust fund that was set up for you; you should divorce before receiving the money. Your soon to be ex will have the rights to that money if they decide to pursue and take half; in most states due to it being the law.

5. When the kids are in high school. You might be wondering how this helps financially well till the child or children turn 18 years old; one parent will be responsible to pay child support. In most cases it is the father who will have to pay a lump sum every month till the child becomes of age. If you wait till the child is in high school, then you will only have to pay for 4 years opposed to 10 plus years (depending the age of your child).

In all honesty for most people there is never a good time to get a divorce. In other cases it is necessary to get a divorce because the marriage is unhealthy, abusive etc. Most if not all states offer a Self-Help Program for those who do not have the means to hire a divorce attorney, and the cost of the divorce through this program is extremely affordable. They will assist you in getting the divorce process moving along. Now that you may be divorce soon you may want to learn ways to not think about your ex. Here are 3 Ways To Forget About Your Ex.

Could “You” be your own worst nightmare? Could “You” be the reason your still single? Have you stopped and really analyzed yourself before assuming the reason was everyone else? I know this may sound harsh but I also know this may be true. It’s a common mistake for people to overlook their own faults and short comings. Take a good look at yourself. You may come to learn that while you are your own worst critique in some areas you are blinded by your faults in others. Keep reading to see if you fall into any of these areas I’ve listed below, you may be surprised at the things you’ve overlooked.

Are your loving ways coming across the wrong way?

You may be a loving and nurturing person which is great; as long as you know when to draw the line. While some people may enjoy your constant praise and attention at first, it wont be long before they’re looking for some breathing room. men and women the same need space, especially in the beginning of a relationship. You’ll have to learn to keep yourself in check so that your loving ways don’t end up pushing them away. By being too clingy, needy or dependent you ca be sending them singles of insecurity which is a major turn off.

Are you so outspoken that you come across as argumentative?

Intelligence is a wonderful trait and so is having an opinion. However, when you go from being opinionated to argumentative this is the issue. There’s nothing wrong with expressing your thoughts and feelings, but allow others to do the same. Remember you don’t have to agree on everything. Sometimes it’s best to “agree to disagree” and move on to the next conversation.

Are you still dealing with issues from the past?

Sure you may be over your ex and don’t want them back. But have you forgive them and stopped hating them yet? If you’re still holding on to the resentment, hate and pain for your ex you are unable to truly move forward with an open heart or mind. You may physically be out of a relationship but you are still mentally connected to them. You have to get over the past before you can move on with your present to ensure a happier future.

Do you have your standards set too high?

Make a list of what it is you’re looking for. Then make a list of the things you aren’t willing to over look. What are the “must have’s,” “nice to have’s,” and “absolute no-no’s”. Are you really bring reasonable? Are you turning people away over silliness or stupidity?

Do you fall for the wrong type of people?

Do you constantly find yourself attracted to the unavailable? Could your subconscious mind be doing this as a reason for you to keep running away? What is it about these people that keeps drawing you to them? Work out your personal issues before you enter the dating world.

Do you have a tendency of opening up and get attached too fast?

While communication is important it’s equally important that you don’t open up too soon. Take your time getting to know people and letting them get to know you. Let them see all your pros before you start unleashing all your baggage on them. If you say too much too soon you can be scarring people away.

It seems that the majority of men are intimidated when it comes to dating women with high paying jobs. For some reason they feel less of a man and that their job may not be good enough to date a woman who is a lawyer or doctor. Most successful women have felt that they had to lie at first about their position or downgrade what their job title really is to make a man that they are interest in feel comfortable with his own pride. Now not all men will feel intimidated and some will be proud to have a strong, independent woman by their side. There are ways to represent your career and not scare off any man who might feel less accomplished than you.

5 Dating Tips For Successful Women:

Tip #1: Talk About Your Dates Career

Finding someone who is just as passionate about their career as you are will make talking about their career go smoothly. They will be more willing to engage in the conversation and talk about their every day experiences at the work place.

Tip #2: Ask For Advice & Opinion

Men want to feel needed by a woman they are dating. Talk about how you would like to hear his advice or opinion about a certain situation that is going on at work. Make sure you seem genuine and really take his advice into consideration.

Tip #3: Talk About Other Topics Than Work

Once the initial conversation about work has passed; branch out and talk about other interesting topics. Try to find things that you both have in common such as riding bike, hiking, movies, music, or favorite sport. The point for this is to find mutual interests that you both can share from time to time.

Tip #4: Realize To Let Go

If you are currently dating someone who is constantly talking about how you have more education than he does or you make more money than he does; get out of that relationship quickly. The person you are dating is clearly showing you that it bothers him that you are more successful than he is. He is letting his pride get in the way of something that might turn into a real good thing. As a successful woman you must learn how to realize when something is not working out.

Tip #5: Make Sure He Is Dating You Not Your Success

Men always complain about being careful of women who are gold diggers, well there are lots of men who are gold diggers as well. Make sure the person you are investing your time in is dating you not your money. If he shows any shady behavior dump him and move on to the next man.

Successful women deserve to date a man that is going to respect their job and respect them as a person. No need to settle for anything less than that. If you find a confident man that is okay with your career and the potential distance apart due to you working hard then he is a keeper.