Hotness in bed...never enough!

Guys love many things when it comes to love making, from cuddling to head-to-toe leather. But what men really want in bed…. keep reading and you’ll find out.

1. A woman who takes charge.

Men find it thrilling when they don’t have to be the one to initiate sexual action. They enjoy, for brief interludes, being submissive. It is very freeing to give yourself over to another person’s wishes. Men really want that.

2. Share his fantasies with you.

Avoid the open-ended question, “What are your fantasies?” It puts him on the spot, and he could blurt out something scary. Instead, try. “Do you ever fantasize about us? What are we doing?” This way, he will feel more free to share his dirty dreams with you.

3. Give him options.

Treat him to a game of multiple choice with questions like, “What would turn you on me dressed up as a nurse, a schoolgirl, or in head-to-toe leather?” He’ll be able to reveal his preferences without implying that he’s unhappy with what you’ve currently got going in bed.

4. Help with his erection.

This means working with your man, and not against him. You are emotionally involved with him and not just lying there keeping silent score in your head or waiting for him to prove something. Show him tenderness and affection as well as passion.

5. A sense of humor.

It’s too easy to get all “intense” about sex, especially if we want it to be perfect. The stress this place on a couple can actually cause things to go wrong. Humor can lighten the situation and take the heat off. Yes, men really want playfulness in bed.

6. A women who’s not afraid to tell what she wants.

A women should show that she is responsive from the word go. Let him know you are aroused by the way you move and what you say. This also means you appreciate what is being done to you, and are not too embarrassed to say, “I like that”. Speak to him, or indicated in non-verbal ways, by putting his hand or fingers in the right place. “Slower”, “faster”, “harder”, “softer”, may be all the vocabulary you need, but you’ll be telling him a lot. One of the major turn on’s in bed.

7. Spontaneity

Men really want a woman who can go with the flow and have sex at a moment’s notice without making a lame excuse. So what if you’ve got your best dress on, you’re on your lunch hour, or whatever, none of this really matters to the average guy.

8. Cleanliness

A man likes a woman to smell good, just as much as she appreciates a man smelling good, and vaginal hygiene is simply being considerate to your partner. The best way round this is to have a bath with your partner before having sex, and to leave the mouth fresheners or mouthwash next to the toothpaste.

9. A good massage

By this we mean a neck and shoulder massage to relax him after a hard day at work and as a foreplay. You don’t need to be a trained masseuse to give a good back rub. The trick is to use slow, deep strokes, going too lightly or too quickly are the main problems. Always use oil because dry rubbing can be painful.

10. Sex in the morning.

Most men never get that early morning erection satisfied, but when they do, boy, are they grateful. Girls, it might be worth getting to bed a bit earlier the night before, just to set him up for the day. Men really want that…and not necessarily in bed.