It is great to see when exs’ have learned to get along and even some become great friends. Once in awhile exs talk about their current relationships to each other and simple catching up topics. It is even great to see when they have evolved, moved on and being respectful happy for each other. Now the big day comes when your ex has invited you to his wedding. It might not seem awkward to you since you both are good friends now, but there are some things that you should know before you go. Here is a list of The Do’s & Don’ts At An Ex’s Wedding:

For this list of Don’ts; if you care about your ex and have respect for his wife to be you would not think about doing any of these things on this list. Here are some Don’ts:

• Don’t try to dress in white or try to outshine the bride on this day. The dress should not be too short, too low cut, or too tight.
• Don’t be overly affection with him. No need to sit there and hug him for more than 15 seconds making him and his new wife uncomfortable.
• Don’t bring a date that you don’t know just so that you won’t seem single at your ex’s wedding.
• Don’t bring up your relationship with the groom if not need be. Try to refrain from mentioning things that you two had once shared. If a song is playing that reminds you of the time you and your ex had vacationed at the Bahamas and had a steamy night; keep that story to yourself!
• Don’t write a long, love note in your greeting card or the guest sign in book to your ex. This is simply inappropriate to him and his new wife. Make sure to include bride in the note and make it short and simple.
• Don’t hang around your ex’s parents the whole night. This can easily make the bride feel uncomfortable watching you sweet talking his parents.

This list of Do’s shows your maturity level and respect you have for your ex and his wife to be. Here are some Do’s:

• Do bring a date (if you are given permission too) and make sure this guy is a good guy and that you have known for some time.
• Do greet the groom and bride when given the opportunity.
• Do congratulate the bride and tell her that she looks wonderful. But please don’t overdo it and sound phony. Congratulating the bride and saying nice things to her will make her feel more comfortable that you are there.
• Do communicate with the groom’s family and friends. Be nice to everyone you come in contact with.
• Do be honest have you know the groom if asked by one of the bride’s party. All you have to say is “We met back in school” or “I’ve known him since we worked together back at the bookstore.” There is no need to make it a point or say “We use to hook up back then.” No one needs to hear that.
• Do bring a wedding gift if you can or a gift card will be nice as well.